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Have you ever experienced dwelling on something unproductive and insignificant for so long that it messed up your entire day and drained all the life out of you?
It’s happened to me many times before. I used to get easily “affected” or “offended” when the people around me rejected my ideas and opinions or whenever they expressed dislike of the things I’m fond of such as songs, hobbies, celebrities or events.
I was allergic to the feeling of being unwanted and misunderstood. As an overly sensitive person, I also felt the need to prove myself right all the time.
I had a skill to turn simple things into big and pointless arguments. In effect, all of my past relationships failed miserably.
Looking back, I’ve realized that I was guilty of giving power to those little thoughts in my head that don’t serve me; and that every time I would let myself be bothered by small things, I was actually choosing to be insensible and inefficient.
So, I tried to do something about it by deciding to rewire my brain to change my negative orientation.
As a start, I focused my attention inward.
I have learned that if I want to feel better, I have to focus on more positive feelings . I have also come to understand that if I can control my thoughts then I can also control the way I’m experiencing the things that are happening in my life.
“Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person” by Alain de Botton offers a brilliant insight on where to put our attention if we want our relationship to work.
In this piece, the writer emphasizes the imperfections as well as incompatibilities in relationships that are normal.
What we have to focus on is how we can negotiate our differences intelligently and how we can tolerate our differences with generosity.
To have a successful marriage, you must accept that the perfect person who can meet all your needs and satisfy your every yearning doesn’t exist.
In my soul-searching, another thing that I tried to work on was worrying too much about the things that I don’t have. Instead I focused on the little things that I already have and made them better.
Ladies, sometimes, we don’t need to look very far to find something special.
In the piece “Leverage the Undeniable Power of Video Marketing in All Platforms,” writer Lesya Liu encourages online entrepreneurs to take advantage of the power of video content on platforms that they already have such as Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Periscope, Meerkat, Vine, Snapchat and YouTube.
Video content is the king of online marketing. People love to experience things and multimedia can be very appealing through a variety of senses such as sound, vision and motion.
Creating video posts and sneak peeks of your products or hosting a Q&A session may be intimidating at first but once you get the hang of it, you will be able to provide your audience a more immersive and engaging brand experience that’s more budget-friendly.
Your life is a sum of your choices. Every decision you make has the power to change your life’s direction.
And though you can’t always choose what happens to you, you still have the power to control how you respond to things.
To help you focus more on the things that matter, you should be aware of these “7 Choices You’ll Definitely Regret 10 Years From Now.”
My favorite is #2: Following someone else’s dream. Most of us spend our lives trying to please our parents, partners and friends to the point of losing self-respect and boundaries.
Ladies, there’s nothing wrong with being generous and kind but you have to learn to make choices based on the things that you want and not based on what others want from you.
Our brain has the capacity to strengthen or weaken a specific thought based on the attention we put in it.
To increase your awareness skills and help you concentrate on productive things, check this out – “15 Life Rules to Know Before You Turn 30.”
Forgiveness is the most striking thing on the list for me. Carrying anger and hatred in your heart can be hefty baggage and can really hold you back from moving on with your life. So, you better deal with it by letting go of all the grudges and freeing yourself once and for all.
The real key to peace and happiness is to have a conscious lifestyle or to pay attention only to the important things in life.
Learning to manage your self-defeating thoughts and being able to focus on what you want and why you want it lead to a richer and more meaningful life.
This is a very timely article for me, thank you for posting this. I really have to focus my energies on positive thoughts and productive actions, otherwise I’ll get sucked into something bad. It works. The power of your mind to translate things into action cannot be understated.
One thing that has greatly helped me is to know when to pick my battles. At one time, I got angry and did not care to let someone know about it even over small, insignificant things. But, once I realized that some things are better left unsaid, my life became way less stressful.
I think there is a lot of power to be had in focusing on positive thoughts. We can change the direction of our lives with choices, but the same can also be said about positive and negative thoughts. Both will have a big impact, but they will each take you in a completely different direction.
It is all part of growing up. I was taught at a younger age to pick my battles. Let the small things go and worry about the big things. I’m glad you are doing this too.
Positivity is the key to a happier, less stressful life. I’m trying to eliminate the negative people and things out of my life. I’m not all the way there yet, but I’ve got a good start.
Forgiveness is one area in my life that I struggle with, I admit! I have a really hard time letting things go, and it has caused issues for me when it comes time to move forward. The world is full of injustice, and life isn’t always fair. It can be so hard to let it all go and move on to better things.
I used to be one of those people who held a grudge forever. If someone hurt me, I could not let it go. I just stayed angry and bitter inside about it. But I finally figured out that this was giving them the power to control my feelings. It felt so liberating to free myself of the hatred and move on to enjoy life instead.
The mind has unbelievable strength. No matter how terrible our lives may have been in the past, it is possible to put this behind us and refuse to let it take away our happiness in the present and future. I am living proof of this. After many years of heartbreaking experiences, I am now happier than I have ever been in my life.
Freedom is an illusion. We are so often bound by our own thoughts and the society perception on what is good and bad. That’s why it’s not easy to take full control of our lives. I often ask myself, to what extent do I need to be considerate of others? How far can I go until I’m allowed to say no? The line is different in each situation, it’s really hard.