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By Vanessa Green
Have you ever experienced dwelling on something unproductive and insignificant for so long that it messed up your entire day and drained all the life out of you?
It’s happened to me many times before. I used to get easily “affected” or “offended” when the people around me rejected my ideas and opinions or whenever they expressed dislike of the things I’m fond of such as songs, hobbies, celebrities or events.
I was allergic to the feeling of being unwanted and misunderstood. As an overly sensitive person, I also felt the need to prove myself right all the time.
I had a skill to turn simple things into big and pointless arguments. In effect, all of my past relationships failed miserably.
Looking back, I’ve realized that I was guilty of giving power to those little thoughts in my head that don’t serve me; and that every time I would let myself be bothered by small things, I was actually choosing to be insensible and inefficient.
So, I tried to do something about it by deciding to rewire my brain to change my negative orientation.
As a start, I focused my attention inward.
I have learned that if I want to feel better, I have to focus on more positive feelings. I have also come to understand that if I can control my thoughts then I can also control the way I’m experiencing the things that are happening in my life.
“Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person” by Alain de Botton offers a brilliant insight on where to put our attention if we want our relationship to work.
In this piece, the writer emphasizes the imperfections as well as incompatibilities in relationships that are normal.
What we have to focus on is how we can negotiate our differences intelligently and how we can tolerate our differences with generosity.
To have a successful marriage, you must accept that the perfect person who can meet all your needs and satisfy your every yearning doesn’t exist.
In my soul-searching, another thing that I tried to work on was worrying too much about the things that I don’t have. Instead I focused on the little things that I already have and made them better.
Ladies, sometimes, we don’t need to look very far to find something special.
In the piece “Leverage the Undeniable Power of Video Marketing in All Platforms,” writer Lesya Liu encourages online entrepreneurs to take advantage of the power of video content on platforms that they already have such as Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Periscope, Meerkat, Vine, Snapchat and YouTube.
Video content is the king of online marketing. People love to experience things and multimedia can be very appealing through a variety of senses such as sound, vision and motion.
Creating video posts and sneak peeks of your products or hosting a Q&A session may be intimidating at first but once you get the hang of it, you will be able to provide your audience a more immersive and engaging brand experience that’s more budget-friendly.
Your life is a sum of your choices. Every decision you make has the power to change your life’s direction.
And though you can’t always choose what happens to you, you still have the power to control how you respond to things.
To help you focus more on the things that matter, you should be aware of these “7 Choices You’ll Definitely Regret 10 Years From Now.”
My favorite is #2: Following someone else’s dream. Most of us spend our lives trying to please our parents, partners and friends to the point of losing self-respect and boundaries.
Ladies, there’s nothing wrong with being generous and kind but you have to learn to make choices based on the things that you want and not based on what others want from you.
Our brain has the capacity to strengthen or weaken a specific thought based on the attention we put in it.
To increase your awareness skills and help you concentrate on productive things, check this out – “15 Life Rules to Know Before You Turn 30.”
Forgiveness is the most striking thing on the list for me. Carrying anger and hatred in your heart can be hefty baggage and can really hold you back from moving on with your life. So, you better deal with it by letting go of all the grudges and freeing yourself once and for all.
The real key to peace and happiness is to have a conscious lifestyle or to pay attention only to the important things in life.
Learning to manage your self-defeating thoughts and being able to focus on what you want and why you want it lead to a richer and more meaningful life.