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By Christian Carter
I’m sure it comes as no news to you that a man can be doing all the things that say he’s interested in you, but still say he’s not ready for a relationship or “anything serious”.
It’s one of those things that drive women crazy.
What’s worse, he can do all kinds of things with you from hanging out to getting physical, but he won’t communicate what he’s really feeling… until after he decides things “aren’t working”.
You didn’t even get the chance to know or talk about what was going on inside his head.
How in the world did he think things were supposed to end up working? Were you supposed to read his mind!?
The problem is that women try to read TOO much into their early interactions with men, which then leads them to think that after the first few dates, they’re in what I call the “instant relationship”.
That means women often think they’re in a relationship with a man when he’s still feeling things out and probably doesn’t have “relationship” anywhere on his radar. So what IS he thinking on those first few dates? Here’s the deal.
What Dates 2 and 3 Mean to a Man
When a man asks you out for a second or third date, all it means is he’s interested in getting to know you better, because he felt a good connection with you on date #1.
It doesn’t mean that he necessarily wants to be “exclusive” or is thinking “serious relationship.” He’s still just getting to know you.
He’s enjoying your company, having fun, and starting to wonder about you.
Meanwhile, you’re already thinking ahead to the next few months when this is the ONLY man you’re seeing and things are “serious”.
You’ve already made a decision about this guy, and you don’t even know him that well yet. All you’re doing is going by your “gut feeling” and the chemistry you feel when you’re with him.
So you start acting on that “feeling” and you begin to make certain assumptions about what’s going on between you.
This can send a really bad “vibe” to a guy, especially when you assume you’re going to be seeing each other every weekend, when you express your annoyance with him when he doesn’t call you more often, and when you assume a monogamous relationship instead of actually discussing it, then get furious with him when you discover he’s still dating other women.
This is when a guy will pull away, sometimes for good. And you’re left wondering, “What happened?!”
[Ed. Note: Christian Charter’s “Catch Him And Keep Him” gives you specific tips, behaviors and strategies for building and keeping a deep and intense level of attraction with a man, such as the personality traits that attract men, body language, and much more. Click here to learn more.]