4 Signs You Are Too Independent for a Relationship

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I am not going to imply that any woman needs a man to be happy or that ultimate happiness can only be achieved by being half of a romantic relationship. Some women are perfectly happy without a boyfriend. However, some women who are successful and independent can become so wrapped up in their busy lives that they become detached and push away the opportunity for a happy relationship. Are you too independent for a relationship?

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4 Signs You Are Too Independent for a Relationship

1. You say you don’t have time for dating

You keep yourself busy with your career, friends, activities, and family. With all of these things going on in your life, you barely have time to rest, much less pursue romantic interests. Any boyfriend will, no doubt, want hours and hours of your time and you just don’t have it to give.

Dr. Miki Kashtan, Ph.D suggests that when we use the phrase “I don’t have time,” we are shifting the responsibility of making something a priority to an uncontrollable force outside of ourselves. However, each time we say those words, we are making a choice.

If you truly are looking for a relationship, you will have to make time. Sure, you have a ton of obligations, but you have to decide which of those are a priority.

2. You don’t need someone else to make you happy

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There is a big difference between co-dependence and interdependence. Psychotherapist Ross Rosenberg suggests that, by setting boundaries, focusing on yourself, and creating connections with other people, you can avoid becoming involved in a codependent relationship.

It is possible to find a healthy relationship that involves sharing your lives and giving and receiving support to one another without forgetting who you are.

3. You don’t like to let people help you

I understand this. For a lot of women, it is important to feel like you can make it on our own. You don’t want help from other people and you don’t feel like you need a man to take care of you.

You don’t need a psychotherapist to figure this one out. Stop being so stubborn and let people help you.

There is a balance between being needy and being too independent to ask for help. But most men like to do things for you because it makes them feel like they add something to your life.

Let them open doors, help you solve some of your problems, and look at your car’s engine when it’s making a funny noise. It makes them feel needed and appreciated. This way, you can make sure your drive to succeed isn’t being read as “I don’t need a man,” which can be intimidating.

4. You want to live life your way

Whether it is a parent, a friend, or a boyfriend, someone who cares about you will always have an opinion about how you are living your life. Some men might try to influence your decisions, others might try to control you, outright. But you prefer to make your own decisions and live your life your way, without someone else trying to control it.

If you are in a healthy relationship, this won’t be a concern. According to licensed marriage and family therapist, Darlene Lancer, people in a healthy, interdependent relationship have enough self-esteem that they don’t have to control someone else to feel okay. Each person will actually have more freedom because there is a mutual respect for each other’s personal goals.

Look for potential suitors who have enough confidence to allow for your independence.

Let go

You are self-sufficient and capable. There isn’t much that you can’t do for yourself. But it is conceivable that you are closing yourself off from the possibility of a relationship.

If you want to find a man to share your life with, you just need to let go a little. But if you are happy being alone and “doing you”, don’t let anyone stop you.

By Anabelle Lily

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