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Let’s face it ladies, every minute of every day you are being judged and assessed. From your family and your boss to your co-workers, friends, and kids, and of course by males of all shapes and sizes. And let’s not forget your harshest critic: You.
It doesn’t matter if you critique yourself a lot or a little, having insecurities and doubts can affect many different aspects of your life if you don’t know how to handle them. Sure it’s part of living, but there are healthy ways to be a better judge of yourself and others that will dramatically improve many areas of it.
- First, never again feel selfish for putting yourself and your needs before others. It’s just not healthy
- Then learn from a Harvard business school psychologist what the two criteria by which people judge you when they first meet you
- You will also find out how to tell when friendships turn toxic from byproducts of judgment and what to do about it
- As well as twenty practical tips for understanding your mind to begin dealing with all this judgment
- To further flush out the negativity of harsh judgment it is important to learn how to use the laws of nature to create good vibes inside
- And expand your consciousness in 10 easy steps
- While looking at lucid dreaming as a way to unlock the biggest mysteries of your mind
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When Was the Last Time You Really Took Time For Yourself?
All the time I get blamed by friends and family for not coming to every single little family affair. Uh, sorry people, I’m busy! Why can’t they just understand that I love them, but I just need my “me” time?
If you ever feel like the people in your life think you’re being selfish with your time then check out A Therapist Explains Why Making Self-Care Your Top Priority Isn’t Selfish by Julie Hogan. She says about her patients:
“Often, when I ask them what they have done for themselves lately, they are at a loss. They are missing out on these key strategies that will help them be healthier, both emotionally and physically.”
The three key areas Julie goes on to discuss are:
- Giving Yourself Permission
- Avoiding & Reducing Stress
- Setting Boundaries
Another interesting aspect about the way other people judge you (and you them) occurs when you first meet. In Jenna Goudreau’s article: A Harvard Psychologist Says People Judge You Based On 2 Criteria When They First Meet You, you will learn from professor Amy Cuddy they are:
- Can I trust this person?
- Can I respect this person?
Cuddy says:
“…in fact warmth, or trustworthiness, is the most important factor in how people evaluate you. “From an evolutionary perspective,” Cuddy says, “it is more crucial to our survival to know whether a person deserves our trust.”
Which Is Why Negativity & Haters Should Be Dealt With Swiftly
It can be hard to deal with judgmental people you just meet or family you can avoid, but when it is close friends it can get much more complicated. Maria Walley at Verilymag.com has some great advice in her piece How to Tell When Friendships Turn Toxic and What to Do About It.
The first thing to do is to answer a few questions and see just how bad the toxicity levels are. Sarah Argenal, founder of Working Parent Source, certified professional and life coach says:
“When negativity has become the relationship’s defining characteristic, it can become a toxic friendship, which means it’s time to analyze where the relationship is going as well as what the heck happened.”
My girls and I have been in our fair share of fights, often over the stupidest things, but nothing feels better than talking it out. It always leads to stronger bonds and a new respect for each other.
Which Is Why It’s Important to Reflect
In order to do that you can start by checking out Leo Babatau’s article 20 Practical Tips For Understanding Your Mind. It’s technically meditation, but once you hear Babatau explain how it has been the, “most important habit I’ve formed in the last 10 years,” you will want to know more.
And nothing goes better with meditation than channeling good vibes and expanding your consciousness.
You’ll get some help from Thespiritscience.net as they tell you How to use the Laws of Nature to create Good Vibes Inside and, “program your mind into a high vibrational frequency.” Translation, get rid of the negativity in ways you never thought possible.
Then take your mind even further on the good vibe train with 10 Ways That Can Expand Your Consciousness and how Lucid Dreaming Could Be The Key To Unlocking The Brain’s Biggest Mysteries.
When you start to shed the layers of yourself that have done nothing but hold you down and rework the relationships that define you, you will feel like a new woman.
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