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By Anne Cacherell
When I found out that my friend Aimee decided to quit her job in the city to move to the countryside with her BF, I got mixed feelings.
I was happy and excited to know that she and her BF took their relationship to the next level. I was also surprised because she had a good position in their company and she’s been with them for quite a long time. And lastly, I was really worried because I knew that she was financially supporting her younger sister’s college education.
Fortunately, we got a chance to talk over coffee before she left the city. She told me that sacrificing her career was indeed a tough decision but it was necessary so that she could help her BF with their plans in starting their own business. She also took two online jobs so that she could continue helping her sister.
I was so relieved to know that Aimee came up with a workaround to pursue her happiness and still remain as the best sister in the world.
There are so many ways in handing different problems. You can choose to:
• Confront it or deal with it head on
• Go for a temporary fix
• Avoid it or even deny its existence
• Find a way around it to make life easier
Though the first option has always been the best advice on many self-help articles and books, I believe that there are some situations in life wherein being too aggressive doesn’t apply.
Sometimes, you have to find a happy and a healthy middle ground to achieve what you want without losing grasp of your other important goals.
In relationships, for example, most people tend to avoid discussing finances with their partners for the fear that it may lead to tension. However, failing to address financial issues together can result in serious trouble down the road.
I am not saying that you have to agree on every money decision you’ll ever make together. You just need to at least try to meet in the middle by exploring your beliefs together.
Learning to compromise or finding a healthy balance allows your relationship to grow and develop.
To help you create a mutual foundation of your finances and grow together as a couple, check this out – “How to Talk About Money Without Starting a Fight.”
In this piece, writer by Sheiresa Ngo explains the importance of meeting regularly, setting an agenda and being completely honest so that you and your partner can effectively get on the same page.
Adapt the “Fake it till you make it” attitude towards life.
This concept could totally bypass your self-esteem problems. It may take time, it might actually feel artificial or forced in the beginning but eventually, with practice, you will become more natural and authentic.
Ladies, there is nothing wrong with this mind trick. Sometimes, you need to have a little nerve for you to progress.
For example, when you’re in a huge presentation and you feel intimidated by your boss or by your clients, there are ways to appear self-assured even when you’re actually trembling deep inside.
Start by giving yourself a pep talk and reminding yourself that nobody is perfect; you can also ask questions of your audience to make you feel less-overwhelmed and lastly, don’t forget to smile and maintain eye contact.
“Think left and think right and think low and think high. Oh, the thinks you can think up if only you try.”
Think outside the box and allow yourself to create your own ideas.
With this principle in mind, almost everything becomes possible. You can even hack time if you’re creative enough.
When you can barely manage to squeeze in a little time to exercise due to your very busy schedule, you can actually turn your bed into a battleground to combat laziness with these 5-minute ab exercises.
When all else fails, you can try to exploit your brain to change just about anything about yourself.
Yes, ladies. I am talking about hacking your own brain. Sounds interesting, right?
In fact, this is an ancient practice. The indigenous people of the Amazonian Peru use shamanic “Ayahuasca,” a special brew made out of vines and leaves to guide them in their spiritual practices.
Recent scientific discoveries indicate that this same brew can actually reset the brain to allow for deep spiritual healing.
Ayahuasca opens a way for you to get around your old traumatic experiences, bad habits and patterns. It also creates new mental pathways to help you in your journey to a more balanced life.
By tweaking little things and using amazing tricks here and there, you can come up with some surprising antidotes for your problems and make your life easier. You just have to be a little creative and be more than willing to help yourself.