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By Anne Cacherell
Last weekend, since I had nothing much to do after some grocery shopping, I decided to pay my best friend a surprise visit.
You might be thinking, who comes to someone’s place unannounced? Well, my bestie and I do that to each other all the time. I guess it’s included in the perks of being friends for 30 years.
When I got there, it wasn’t good timing as usual. She was busy doing some general house cleaning, so I ended up helping her.
While I was wiping the kitchen cabinets, I couldn’t help but notice how she was cleaning her stove. She was scrubbing it really hard and she was obviously bothered.
When I asked if she was okay, she told me how her stove easily gets dirty and then she said, “You spatter grease on them when you cook. You spill everything from sauces to cooking oil on them. And no matter how hard I try to scrub and fight the grime to make it look clean, it’s never enough.” Then she started crying.
I knew this was not about the stove.
She told me how frustrating it is that she can’t find a job for her partner and how he is always hanging out with his friends while she tries to make both ends meet.
We all have our issues. There is no such thing as a perfect life.
While we are born with certain abilities, it can really get tough sometimes. In the piece “Why Trying to Solve Your Partner’s Problems Will Ruin Your Relationship,” Kyle Benson explains how relationships rely on two pillars.
Both pillars are responsible in providing balance and foundation for the relationship. If the other person is not doing his/her part, the support becomes weak causing the relationship to crumble down.
Ladies, romantic sacrifices have boundaries.
We don’t have to let ourselves be treated like crap just to be loved in return. We have to realize that we can’t be everything to someone.
What do you think will eventually happen if my friend continues to allow her partner to take her for granted?
When there’s not enough effort on both ends, or any at all, to solve the problem then intimacy will eventually die.
When you try to become everything to your partner, he will become dependent on you. Both of you will not grow and your relationship will be in constant turmoil.
As a friend, I can only do so much. I told her everything that she needed to hear and the decision is all up to her.
While I was driving home, I couldn’t help but think that no one’s life is perfect and that everyone is dealing with their own problems. Just about a month ago, I was so confused with my own life. I wasn’t sure if leaving my job to pursue my passion of writing full time would work for me. But I still took the risk.
In “Why It’s Totally Fine If You’re Confused About Which Career Path to Take,” writer Rachael Thatcher positively highlights “jumping between interests.”
For many women, jumping from one career to another is viewed as immature behavior. However, what they fail to realize is that saying goodbye to one passion to explore a new one can actually be a great advantage.
You see ladies, reality is what we create in our minds. If we choose to see the positive in every situation, it will manifest in our life as truth.
So, what if we are far from being perfect? What really matters is having a positive mental and emotional attitude towards life.
Imperfection is just simply doing the best in everything we do.
Speaking of imperfections, can you think of anyone who doesn’t have some issue with their own body? We should all know by now that loving oneself is a lifelong journey for all of us women. And part of that journey is to shape ourselves and eat healthy.
So, you better check out these 7 new health apps that will actually make your life better. More than just tracking your daily steps, these apps can help you stay on top of every aspect of your health, from birth control, to skin regimen, to mental therapy and to tuning up your daily zen.
Beauty seems unfinished when it’s not painted.
So after doing all those body regimens, you should check this out too, “How to Coordinate Nail Art With Your Makeup.” These four nail and eye designs are perfect matches made from the heaven of fashions.
So ladies, let’s not miss the whole point, shall we?
Life may not be perfect most of the time and things don’t always make sense, but hey – that’s where the real beauty of our existence lies. Fortunately, that gives us the reasons we need to grow and make things better, and most of all to appreciate the good things that life itself has to offer.