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By Lex Lopez
In his early 40s, my father used to earn enough money to support our family’s needs and afford some recreation like eating in fancy restaurants and going on vacations.
However, when he lost his job, our family was at its lowest point ever. He had a hard time looking for a new company and though we had other sources of income, we had some difficulties in adjusting to our limited budget.
Contentment is learning to appreciate how much you already have.
To make ends meet, my parents started running a small coffee shop. At the time, a big coffee company was holding a raffle and the grand prize was a trip for 4 to Europe. So, I gathered all the empty coffee packs, cleaned them and patiently wrote my name, address and signature on the back of each pack.
One afternoon, a frantic knocking at my door woke me up. It was my mother, overjoyed to see my name on the TV screen for winning the raffle!
The next few minutes went by in blur. I couldn’t breathe because I thought I won the Euro-tour. Turned out, I only won the 2nd prize which was a huge flat screen TV. My state of excitement faded and I started to feel disappointed.
Looking back, from a purely rational point of view, I should’ve been very happy still and not felt bad just because I didn’t get what I wanted. Here’s what I realized:
We decide that the things that we don’t have should be the basis of our happiness, when in fact, we should be appreciating how much we already have.
Many of us commit the mistake of choosing to compare ourselves to others who have much better lives than us, which of course will make us feel bad and more frustrated about our own.
Why do you think there are people who are way less fortunate than you, but are happier than you?
Contentment is the key to happiness. It doesn’t mean settling for something less nor fulfilling what you desire. It just means loving what you have and being grateful for it.
To make you realize that you already have everything that you need and to help you let go of the unnecessary things and thoughts that are stopping you from being happy, here are some things I’ve learned in my life that I would like to share with you.
You don’t need a lot of money to be happy. Sometimes, all you need is just a little sense of creativity.
It may seem tough because we are living in a society where cash rules everything and where everyone thinks that the more money you have in your bank account the better your life is.
However, from a logical perspective, it’s pointless to worry about what others think of us. It doesn’t make sense to pretend to be someone we are not just to show others that we’re doing good.
This piece by Erin Smolenski helps us work out where our money is going and give way to our bigger priorities through a little bit of imagination – “5 Tips on Living Like a Royalty on a Tight Budget.”
In finding the one, you don’t need uncertainty. What you need to look for is a real romantic connection and compatibility.
When we are in search of a real loving relationship, we have to know what true love really requires.
Kevin Schlittenhardt of Elite Daily raises a good point why we should consider these 5 questions as deal breakers in any relationships.
The relevance of asking questions is to know someone better, but not when you’ve already come to a point wherein trust and understanding should’ve already been established.
Our relationships should serve as our sanctuary to get away from all the stressors of life. So, if you can’t let go of the doubts, you just need to call it quits.
You don’t need to starve yourself to slim down. What you need is some simple tweaks to your diet.
Drastically slashing calories will only result in frustration, disappointment, and sickness. However, making manageable changes instead of completely overhauling the types of food we eat can give long lasting results.
To help you achieve a sexier body without sacrificing your health, check this out – “12 Simple Food Swaps that Will Help You Lose Weight.”
You don’t need to feel old. You just have to look younger.
Age is associated with a lot of unnecessary mental labels such as how many achievements we have, how much money we have in our bank account, our relationship status and how we should look.
Hear this, ladies. Age really is just a number and you shouldn’t allow it to stress you out nor give it power to restrict your happiness.
I’m thankful to have come across this piece – “5 Things that are Making You Look More Tired.”
It helped me feel more comfortable and confident about myself, particularly about my age.
You already have everything you need, including the ability to create your own happiness in life. So stop rolling around in your miseries and let go of the things and thoughts that are taking the joy out of your life.