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By Lex Lopez
About a week ago, my friend Emily came to my house crying, telling me how fed up she was with her brother-in-law. They live in the same house and she was complaining about how he never helps her with the cleaning, shopping, or paying bills of any kind.
But when I asked her if she and her husband ever tried to speak to him about it, she said no.
Being the frank friend that I am, I told her that she should condition herself to deal with the same issue for the rest of her life or at least for the rest of her brother-in-law’s life.
I think many people are in a similar situation wherein they seem to be hesitant and afraid to confront their problems and take action. They never run out of excuses and they always have someone to blame for their miseries.
Many people are allergic to the word: Responsibility. Either they don’t understand it or they are scared of it. So, today, I decided to share with you some of my thoughts about taking responsibility for your life.
Allow yourself to fail but not to the point that you would wallow in your miseries. Immerse yourself in the moment until you fully understand the lesson.
Give yourself a chance to commit some mistakes and learn from your experiences. You’ve probably heard this a million times but I’ll say it again, “Nobody is perfect.” So, stop beating yourself up every time you do something wrong. Instead, surrender yourself to the whole experience.
Figure out what your situation is trying to teach you or what changes you need to make to avoid the same thing from happening again. And then slowly but surely, pick yourself up, put your life back together and come back stronger.
In the piece “How Getting Fired Turned Into A Sweet Success for This Entrepreneur,” writer Lindsay Friedman shares the story of Melissa Ben-Ishay’s multi-million dollar cupcake business.
After getting fired from her job, Melissa decided to start baking, with almost nothing.
She didn’t have a store or an assistant, and she had to travel by foot or through the subway to deliver products to catering events and to individual customers.
When I was at my lowest point, I didn’t have a mentor. I didn’t have someone to push me or encourage me to keep on fighting, which made things twice as hard. It made me realize that I was the only person who could help me. So, I analyzed my options, my resources and thought of all the things that I was doing wrong, particularly the habits that I had to change.
I didn’t let my failure get in the way. It wasn’t that easy but slowly, I managed to gain back my strength and get back on my feet again.
Grow up and discipline yourself to do what is right and what is important.
You are responsible for your own happiness and success. Therefore, stop making excuses and get rid of the victim mentality every time your relationship fails or whenever you’re having a hard time achieving your ambitions.
Start working and hustling your way to success and shut the hell up about “adulting.”
This word has become an overused, demeaned expression on social media nowadays. People are just using it to brag about things and their lazy and lousy life choices.
Ladies, maturity is not a hobby and definitely, not an entitlement. It means being responsible for yourself and for your actions. So, please don’t confuse it with sharing your stupid anecdotes with a hashtag.
Avoid standing in the way of your own success and never hold yourself back from living the life that you want.
Do not sabotage yourself. Instead, take affirmative actions and positive changes to fulfill your goals.
Emily Kirkland set a good example when she decided to revamp her eating habits to get in shape.
She revealed her love-hate relationship with exercise and how it helped her lose 80 pounds in one year. Also, she emphasized that it’s not about how she looks now, but how the whole process made her feel.
And that’s the thing, ladies. When you start to take action and responsibility for your life, you will start to feel better about yourself. Doing the right things consistently will help you build your self-esteem and will make you feel that you deserve more in life.
“Hold yourself responsible for a higher standard than anybody expects of you. Never excuse yourself.”
Ladies, let me remind you of this powerful fable. When it rains, most birds head for shelter. The eagle is the only bird that, in order to avoid rain, starts flying above the clouds.
Demand excellence out of yourself and do not ever settle for anything less than you deserve.
In a column in Elite Daily titled “Ask Auntie Gigi,” writer Gigi Engle explains that there is no difference between a “f*ckboy” and a “softboy” as both of them consist of being a douche.
They both belong to the confusing breed of men who are in a roller coaster of emotions, immature and don’t have their sh*t together. In short, you should avoid these types of men at all costs. Keeping someone like this in your life is synonymous to subjecting yourself to the lowest standards.
Doing the right thing in every situation and aiming to be the best person that you can be all the time are not the easiest of choices. In fact, these are the hardest things to do. But the good thing is they come with a guarantee of long-lasting happiness and success.