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By Anne Cacherell
Girl, let me tell you this: There’s no right or perfect time to start being kind to yourself than right now. So, never let a good chance at love and happiness pass you by. And yes, even if that time comes when your life isn’t perfect or you’re about to have a meltdown.
When I was 23, I was horribly miserable. I just lost my job, I didn’t have any savings in my bank account and I didn’t have any sense of direction in life. That same year, I met the man who changed my life forever.
He became my inspiration and from then on, good things started happening. I got a new job, got promoted after 6 months and sorted out my finances. I did so many things that I never thought were possible before then. And what’s the moral lesson of the story?
The right person doesn’t always come at the right time.
In reality, life is full complications and problems and unfortunately, you will never run out of them; they will always keep on coming and there’s nothing that we can do to stop them.
However, you have the power to simplify things by being the person that you need to be.
You have to forgive yourself for your past mistakes and give yourself a chance to be loved, make things rights and be happy.
In the piece “Don’t Push Away a Shot at Love Just Because Your Life is Falling Apart,” writer Zara Barrie explains why you should never pass on the chance at true love even if you’re feeling vulnerable and imperfect.
Ladies, it’s your flaws that make you unique and real. While you battle your hardships, you are in your truest character and that is the reason why you’ve attracted a good man – he sees you in your truest, purest and uncorrupted self.
And that’s what true love is about: learning to see our partner’s imperfections perfectly.
And bear this in mind ladies; there’s nothing more stupid than giving up or letting go of the only opportunity in life that is worth living for – LOVE.
I think everything we do in this life should be founded in the notion of being kinder to ourselves. It’s really quite a simple principle that can make life a little easier to live each and every day.
So to help you make a positive change and develop more love and kindness towards yourself, here are some additional tips that you can start doing today.
Reframe your challenges and allow yourself to grow.
Neutralize negativity in your life by acknowledging your capacity to do whatever it is that makes you happy.
If you feel that you’ve already outgrown your current job, then, seek other alternatives by having an open an honest conversation with your boss about the possibility of new projects.
After discussing your options and still your company doesn’t give you new opportunities for self-growth, then by all means pack up your workspace, explore the outside world and move on to greener pastures.
Changes and new challenges make you tougher.
It gives you a chance to improve yourself and learn something new. So, embrace it and be grateful for the opportunity to keep on growing. Sometimes, the best thing to do is just be thankful for the struggles that you are blessed enough to have.
Tap into your inner courage and channel it to project more confidence and authority.
Start paying more attention on how you frame your mind, what you tell yourself and how you express yourself to other people. The way you communicate tells so much about your personality and can impact the way you are perceived by others.
To help you increase your sense of authority and self-confidence, check this out – “Ban These Words From Your Vocabulary to Sound More Confident at Work.”
Negative words and phrases like “just”, “I am no expert, but…”, “I can’t” and “What ifs…” make you sound weak, defensive, apologetic, unsure and incapable.
To make stronger statements, writer Melody Wilding suggests that you should try to be more straightforward, rephrase your statements into something more positive and observe formality by refraining from using unnecessary emojis and exclamation marks.
Nourish yourself with healthy essentials like good food, exercise and enough rest to increase your physical and emotional strength.
Take good care of yourself by providing your mind, body and soul with everything it needs to live longer and happier. Also, Invest in things that help you live a better life such as being more mindful and being kind to others.
In the piece “5 Traits of People Who Live Long, Healthy Lives (According to Science),” writer Dr. William Cole explains how openly expressing your emotions is a major key to longevity.
When you choose to spend your life worrying about your future and regretting your past, you will always be lost and you will never figure things out. Mindfulness and learning to live in the present moment help you become more stable emotionally, physically and spiritually.