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By Vanessa Green
There have been numerous times in the past when I thought that I was actually doing the right thing, yet it turned out, I was wrong.
I didn’t meet my “life mentor” until I was 27, so before that, everything I did was just trial and error. Needless to say, I had to learn many things the hard way.
My mentor was also my best friend and she taught me how to refine my choices in life. She made sure that I wasn’t wasting my time on worthless things and most particularly, on wrong men.
Ladies, the earlier you invest on the following tips that I have below, the sooner you will gain love, happiness and power.
Don’t waste your time on people who don’t appreciate your value, particularly on men, who just aren’t worth the energy.
Nowadays, it seems so chaotic and upsetting to try and find someone who will treat us right, give us the attention we want and show us genuine care and love. Many men exhibit disturbing behavior as if it were acceptable. However, I think that in reality, some of us ladies are partly to blame for this.
If you indulge in one night stands and casual hook-ups, and at the same time expect men not to treat you like a sexual object, then in this case, you are your own worst enemy. If you want a guy to treat you like a princess, then act like one.
Do not, in any way, subject yourself to low standards. Never compromise your self-worth and self-respect by allowing men to use you at their convenience, neglect you and mistreat you.
Aside from “ghosting,” another common misdemeanor in the dating arena right now is known as “benching.”
Coined by New York Magazine writer Jason Chen, it happens when someone is kind to you and communicates to you just enough to keep you on the hook. In other words, he is keeping his options open while saving you as a back-up for a rainy day.
Wake up, girl! When you’re being benched, you are not special to that person. Even if you have had fun times together, it doesn’t change the fact that for him, you are just an option. Nobody in this world, who is worth your time, would ever make you feel subservient.
Manage your energy purposefully to manage your time.
Sometimes, the problem is not about the lack of time, but the lack of direction.
I used to be so awful in managing my time. I was always late for work, kept missing my deadlines and pushed back my tasks further and further until the last minute. Because of that, I’ve lost out on several projects and money. I realized that I had to do something before it damaged my reputation and credibility.
To help you achieve your goals with less waste, anxiety, stress and more opportunities to do what you enjoy, check this out – “6 Ways to Boost Workday Productivity.”
In my opinion, one of the common misconceptions among people is #5: Double-dipping or multi-tasking. These little nibbles of time actually make work longer than necessary. It is best to just keep your focus on one task and complete it in its entirety before moving on to the next one.
Avoid taking shortcuts that could potentially do you more harm than good.
Success doesn’t happen overnight. Anything worthwhile in life is a product of years of hard work, dedication and commitment.
For example, most women I know will avoid eating enough just to lose weight right away. They exercise, but they push themselves too hard to the point of getting sick.
Ladies, it is important to get yourself refueled every time you workout so that you can recover enough to get results and crush it again the next day.
Writer Sally Tamarkin suggests eating these healthy post-workout meals that lead to better results and progress.
Aside from bland foods, I also hate meals that take too long to prepare after I exercise, so toast with almond butter and strawberries plus an almond milk protein shake will surely work for me. I can’t wait to try it this week!
No matter how old you are and how many mistakes you’ve made along the way, it is never too late to start all over again, take action and make things right.
Ladies, if you have to choose between continuing down the path that you know isn’t right for you and letting go, choose the latter. It may be the most difficult choice you have to make in your life but it’s worth it.
Go back to that starting point that feels right to you and don’t be afraid to take the necessary steps to pursue your happiness. Always remind yourself that you have the capacity to do whatever you want with your life and that:
“No matter what you do, never go back to what broke you.”
In the piece “How to Start Over and Unleash the Phoenix Inside,” writer Marc Angelo Coppola explains that starting over would give you a new sense of identity that would lead to new opportunities.
So, instead of struggling with a dead-end path, take your chance in pursuing a new direction that will make you feel more alive.