Feeling Lost? Learn How to Find More Than the Purpose Of Life Over a Cup Of Coffee

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By Anne Cacherell

My friend Elaine and I used to hang out a lot until she transferred to a different company and I moved out of the city to concentrate on my new career. After that, we really never had the chance to fully update each other about our lives except for a few short exchanges on WhatsApp.

Nothing can beat a good chat over coffee.

It was only the other day that we finally found the time to meet for lunch and have the much awaited conversation of the century over our favorite Mocha latte – decaf, nonfat, less-whip! It feels good to know that some things never change.

We started talking about everything, from former office-mates, to stalker exes, to family. However, as the conversation deepened, I sensed an air of confusion and emptiness in her.

Elaine is 35, single and working as an HR Manager; basically she represents independent Millennials with no big obligations in life. Yet she told me how she’s feeling like a lost soul, with no sense of purpose and direction.

Feeling lost is a sign of maturity and growth. It means we are conscious and we are connected to the world.

I was once like her. I felt like I was wasting my life and I was always questioning myself about my personal mission in this world. But eventually, I found my peace and I know she will, too.


By letting your unhappiness and dissatisfaction lead you to find your purpose and the meaning that you are looking for.

Somehow, I think it all boils down to loving oneself. When we don’t like who we are and we keep on suppressing our passion, then we can never be truly be happy.

In “Why You Shouldn’t Change Yourself, You Should Change the Person You’re With,” Jessica Wendroff explains how men get intimidated by empowered women.

The media is guilty of portraying women as damsels in distress, weak and submissive. That’s why when men are finally confronted with women who are capable of thinking on their own, they tend to run.

“One of the biggest mistakes you can make as a woman is removing jewels from your crown to make it easier for a man to carry. You do not need a smaller crown. You need a man with bigger hands.”

Sacrificing your own happiness and your dreams for someone who doesn’t truly deserve you will get you nowhere. Keeping your ambition and goals in mind are important especially when you’re undergoing one of the biggest transition moments of your life.

Grace Bluerock knows exactly what you need to do in your career while you’re in the process of transformation. In her piece “7 Tips to Build a Business While Working On a Day Job,” she mentions the importance of committing yourself to your dream.

I remember the time I found my peace, everything became clear to me. I knew exactly what I wanted to do, so I wrote down my goals and kept myself focused on it every day. But I noticed that after some time, I still hadn’t accomplished half of the things on my list yet. Why?

Our desires only tell us what we want, our commitment, however, determines how dedicated we are, how far we can go and what we can do to get there.

That’s why it’s vital that you remember to take care of your health as much as you take care of everything else. Without it, you leave yourself susceptible to all sorts of things that interfere with your dreams.

You need to give your mind and body the rest that they need to induce cellular regeneration and internal cleansing.

That’s why, I think that you should be aware of this latest cleanse craze that promotes a diet with less sugar. It’s basically a soup-only diet that detoxifies your body naturally while reducing inflammation and increasing circulation.

Writer Sarah Kaye Santos gives you 3 options depending on your health needs: 24-hour reset, 3-day boost cleanse and 5-day soup cleanse. It also includes a bonus recipe on how to make Purple Cauliflower Soup. I can’t wait to try it myself!

What’s happening on our skin matters, too.

Cleansing, toning and moisturizing should always be a part of our daily facial skincare regime. While I was browsing through Elle Magazine, I came across this unique product to get rid of the bad bacteria on our face; yogurt!

Aside from keeping the natural balance in our digestive and immune systems, it has also been proven effective to boost our skin’s natural defenses. Perhaps on your next trip to the grocery store you should double the number of yogurts you pick up.

Finding yourself, whether you are wandering more than adventuring, and figuring out what you want out of life may seem really challenging. But the moment you admit to yourself that you are lost; your journey to self-exploration begins. It could be a wild ride, but perhaps all you need is a friend and a cup of coffee.


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