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If I was someone around myself 10 years ago, I’m sure I would have been very stressed out, exhausted and drained.
I can still picture myself during that lowest point of my life. My boyfriend cheated on me and left me with our two-month old child. I was broke, I didn’t have a job and I didn’t know where to go.
I didn’t want to involve my parents in the embarrassing situation I was in so I decided to ask the help of my friend Allyn to accommodate me in her place for a while I figured things out, cleared my head and found ways to clean up my mess.
It was a good thing that Allyn was a very positive person. She was very patient with me and she made me believe that I would get through my problems in no time. She was probably one of my good luck charms because in less than week, I got a good-paying job, so good that I could afford to pay all my bills, hire a nanny and fully-support my child.
The way I see it, we absorb energies, good and bad, from all the things around us and the thoughts, the words, and the emotions of people that surround us have a significant impact on our well-being.
To neutralize your stress and have better moods every day, let me share with you the lessons I’ve learned from my past that will help you create a shield to protect yourself from bad vibes .
Start within yourself by letting go of all the toxic thoughts in your head.
Life happens. Everything that’s going on around you, both the good and the bad, are your own perception and interpretation of the truth. The key here is to understand that every adversity, pain and failure carries a seed of grace, purpose and meaning.
Negativity is part of the balance of the universe. It’s unfair to condemn it, fear it or hold it in contempt as we could learn a lot from it and even draw long lasting happiness from it.
Recognize your power to change the way you think and bring more positivity in your life by dropping these 7 common toxic thoughts that diminish your chances of living a happy life.
Learn the art of surrender by letting go of the things that you can’t control.
Let’s face it, ladies. Change is part of life. The more you resist it the more it will persist. The best way to deal with things that you have no control of is to just embrace them. Refusing to accept change or deny its existence will just generate a lot of negative energy, stress and emotional damage.
So, just allow yourself to go with the flow and live with these 12 hard truths about life.
The most striking advice for me is: You have to ask for what you want. Sometimes, you have to speak your mind and stop expecting your partner or the other people around you to read your mind. By doing this, I’m sure you’ll be able to reduce a great chunk of disappointment in your life.
Surround yourself with people who encourage and support you to reach your goals and inspire you to become a better person.
Think about people the same way as you think about what you eat. Some people tend to become parasites or emotional vampires. They suck out all your happiness and positive energy. These people are equivalent to artificial sweeteners or processed foods – unhealthy and will only make you sick.
You might be wondering what makes someone a good person to spend time with. Writer Isaac Huss gives us 4 qualities to look for in a man, from a guy’s perspective.
Good relationships are one of the greatest contributors of success and happiness.
A man is of high-caliber and a real-keeper when he makes you a priority and not just an option in his life, when he truly wants the best for you, when he’s willing to go out of his way to make you feel important and when he knows what actions to take to make things right.
Spending time with this type of man every day or even for the rest of your life surely means long-lasting and meaningful happiness. It could even neutralize all the other bad vibes in your life.
Avoid being reactive and learn how to stay calm and respond mindfully when you’re in a challenging situation.
Giving yourself some time and space to breathe and think help broaden your perspective and get rid of undesirable emotions that are normally driven by ego.
Ladies, keep your grace under pressure and handle negative situations with poise by following these 12 tips for developing greater psychological health.
Tip #4 works for me. In my opinion, one of the most powerful ways to deal with bad vibes is through humor. It enables us to bear the pain and sit in the sadness for a while without resisting or denying the existence of the problem. It helps us accept the truth, work through it and let it go.
There are two ways negativity can hurt you: through the people around you or through yourself. Either way, you should never allow them to get the best of you by choosing to stay positive all the time.
Humor is a great way to deal with negatively and bad vibes. I tend to laugh a lot when I’m around negative people. I think it irritates them and they usually leave me alone.
I am a HUGE fan of being more positive and living more positive. It can be physically painful to be around negative people all the time. I find that I actually have to distance myself from people like that because it is just too draining.
I think, for me, letting go of all of the negative thoughts in my head would have the greatest impact on my life. I’m hard on myself, so when a situation goes awry, I tend to think back to everything I could’ve done differently as opposed to turning the situation around and realizing that I need to look at the situation as an open door.
It is always good to shun away all negative thoughts and emotions. If found myself in a situation like you describe above, I am not sure I would have gotten through it easily but positive energy and self-belief is really important.
Yes, you are so right! I had one “friend” that every time I saw her I walked away feeling just miserable. I didn’t realize it right away, but she was so negative and her attitude was pretty infectious. I finally had to step away from her. It was a bit awkward at first, but not having that in my life has made such a huge difference in my own thoughts and attitudes.
I look back and think about the person I was 20 years ago, and I was so overly dramatic. too hot-headed, too emotional and too eager to believe that everyone else in the world could be trusted. Fortunately, I learned differently and changed my behavior. I also decided to remove those who caused stress and drama from my life and now I am much happier and like myself more than I did back then.
I spent several years of my life allowing people around me who wanted nothing but to destroy me. I thought I could change them and make them happier people. When I finally realized that was not going to happen, I walked away. I decided to only allow those who would build me up and encourage me in my life. It is amazing how much happier I became.
I was never truly happy until I removed those who brought constant drama and stress into my life. I had to take control of my own happiness push the negativity away. Once they were gone, I could relax, breathe and enjoy life again.