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By Agatha Schuring
Sometimes, ladies, we just don’t feel it. We don’t want to have sex. Even if sex is readily available to us, we just aren’t interested. This is completely normal.
However, lately, you’ve noticed that you want it less and less, and suddenly it has been over a month since you and your partner had a proper romp between the sheets.
Well, ladies, this is also normal, and what you are experiencing is a lowered sex drive for one reason or another. The first thing you should do is think back to when your lack of sex drive actually started. Consider the factors that caused it. Sometimes, a big life change is the trigger, and sometimes, your sex drive depletes gradually. Either way, you want to get back on the horse (so to speak).
If you have been experiencing a lowered sex drive, it’s time to improve your life in several different ways. Check out these four ways to boost your sex drive, and get your relationship back to the physical standards you once held for it!
What you eat can affect your physical health as well as your mental health. As a matter of fact, what you put in your body truly can shape your mood for the day. For this reason, if you are experiencing a lowered sex drive, it is time for you to consider a healthier diet that gives you more energy.
Sex requires energy, and eating foods with high fat contents or foods that are especially greasy, can really affect your sex drive in a negative manner. Therefore, it is essential to consume foods and beverages that get your energy levels up.
Start by adding more protein to your diet and ditching the carbs (as much as possible anyway). Foods like peanuts, soy beans, and almonds can really raise your energy levels.
Additionally, you may want to consider weaning yourself off of the coffee. While caffeine is good for you, it can also cause you to crash toward the middle or end of the day. The better alternative is green tea. This has high amounts of caffeine, but it also has essential vitamins to help you stay energized throughout the day.
A well-balanced diet can help you get your sex drive back. It can also help you lose weight to give you more of the sexual feelings that you need mentally for sex.
“An object in motion stays in motion.” This is true for our bodies. Sometimes, we are unaware of how little energy we have at the end of the day or early in the morning. We start dragging, but we tell ourselves that we are just fine. Well, ladies, not so much.
If is important to get your blood flowing early in the morning to help you stay active and energetic throughout the day. If exercise and waking up early aren’t really your thing, try a little experiment. Force yourself to wake up a half-hour earlier than normal. Hit the treadmill for twenty minutes (even if you are just walking at first, it is important to get some form of cardio in at the beginning of the day).
If you do this for three days in a row, you will feel a difference in your energy. You will get better sleep at night, and your blood will be pumping strong throughout the day.
This extra energy will help you get that sex drive back in no time!
#3) Fall in Love Again
Sometimes, it isn’t about the physical activity that you do in the day. Sometimes, your lowered sex drive can be caused by emotional issues. This happens quite often with women who have been in relationships for long periods of times. I’m not saying that you are bored with your man; what I’m saying is that your mind can’t seem to get to the place it once was with him.
For this reason, it is important for you to remember why you fell in love with him in the first place. What explore the reasons for your mind’s changes, and try to work through the issues that you are having.
Take some time, and fall in love with your man again. Spend at least twenty minutes a day thinking about all of the wonderful things he has done for you and how well-balanced your relationship is.
Additionally, if you find that every time you talk about him, you lean toward more negative things, make sure you say something nice about him every time you say something negative. Okay, he really made you mad yesterday, but when you crawled into bed with him, the first thing he did was snuggle up to you.
Keep positive thoughts in your head, and positive results will come. Focusing on the negative aspects of your relationship can do nothing but lead to its demise.
#4) Get Your Mind on Sex
You wake up early, do your exercises, head to work, get off work, pick up the kids, drive home, cook dinner, help the kiddos with their homework, catch your favorite TV show, and go to bed. You have a busy schedule, and you are constantly moving. While your energy levels are fine, you just can’t seem to figure out why you aren’t interested in sex.
Well, you could have issues with stress more than you are having issues with your sex drive. It’s time to rewire your mind, ladies. Get yourself thinking about sex and sexual things. This will help get you in the mood.
For example, on your way home from work, consider thinking about a sexual fantasy that you have. Get your mind on your favorite memory of you and your partner in bed (or not in bed, if that’s your thing).
If you start thinking about sex, you will start wanting sex, and that is where your sex drive gets its biggest boost.
It can be scary if your sex drive seems to be falling, especially when you always considered yourself a very sexual person. Therefore, it is important to consider both the physical and mental factors that could be contributing to your lowered sex drive. Remember that a well-balanced diet, and daily exercise are your first steps to getting back in the saddle. Additionally, if you are dealing with strictly emotional issues, it is important to get yourself in love with your partner again, and get your mind on sex. What are some ways you give your sex drive a boost? Share with us in the comments below.