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Are You Losing More Than Winning These Days? It Might Be Time to Break Up With Your Old Habits

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By Vanessa Green

I spent 10 years of my life working in the customer service industry where I encountered a lot of different people with interesting stories, mindsets and lifestyles. There, I met Sam, who eventually became one of my closest friends.

Sam was only 21 at the time and a single mom. She got pregnant after a couple of booty calls from a man she barely knew. When she told him she missed her period, he disappeared.

As her supervisor, I admired her work ethics though. Sam never missed a day at work and never failed to be one of the top performers of my team.

All the money she was earning went to her 2-year old daughter and some to her vice – partying at least once a week with her friends.

At first, I didn’t see anything wrong with it. I didn’t want to be judgmental because probably, that was just her way of letting loose after a week of hard work and a means of rewarding herself for being a responsible mother.

Then, there was this particular instance when she called in sick for 3 straight days. As part of company’s standard protocol, she gave me a medical certificate from her doctor as soon as she reported back to work. I was in complete surprise upon seeing what was written in the paper – she’s pregnant again!

This time it was by someone we both knew – one of my co-supervisors who is also married!

We had a heart to heart talk after our shift. She was crying non-stop as if she’s going to drown in her own tears and in her own regrets. I was very relieved when she told me that although having a second child would mean a more difficult life for her, she never thought of getting rid of it.

Sam’s remarkable strength deeply touched me. However, if she really wanted to change the course of her life, then she seriously needed to consider breaking away from her bad habits.

If you’re always losing, it’s about time to change your game. You can’t do the same things and expect different results.

Sometimes, norms are just norms because people get used to the idea of doing something all the time. They are somehow jailed by social pressures and never really think of the logic behind it.

There’s nothing wrong in breaking some norms and traditions if it’s guaranteed to improve your life and make you a better person, just like what writer Nicole Ziza Bauer states in “Why You Should Skip Your Honeymoon (Or At Least Wait a Year).”

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Ladies, it’s all on you – your life, your game, your rules!

If you want to score higher, then you have to change the way you’re playing the game, particularly in the financial arena.

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Our attitude defines who we are.

If you are not getting your desired results and there’s no improvement in the quality of your life, then you may need to enforce some serious changes.

This can also mean not throwing out your leftovers ever again! Check this out – “6 Ways to Stop Wasting the Food in Your Kitchen.”

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In order to be the change that we want in the world, we need to be a little daring.

If we are not open-minded to have little mistakes, then we will have no progress either. So, take few risks and just have fun along the way!

Besides, some rules are made to be broken- just like these 5 outdated makeup color theories! Ladies, with all these new breakthroughs in cosmetic products, some ancient beauty tips just don’t make sense anymore.

You can rust out or you can stand out, your choice!

The only way you can make progress is by embracing your experiences, your failures and your heartaches. Sometimes, you have to deviate from the norm to reach your full potential and try new strategies to be a real game-changer.

To be daring means to acknowledge the power you already have within you.

Recognize your own abilities and work them out. It’s all about doing what it takes to win in life like changing your perspectives, replacing your bad habits, altering your behavior or upgrading your skills.

  • Magda

    It’s so true that we can’t keep doing the same things and expect different results. Isn’t it Einstein who is attributed with calling this the definition of insanity? If you don’t like the results you’re getting, you have to make some changes.

  • Jenna

    I couldn’t agree more with you! We tend to feel so comfortable in our zone that we are scared of challenging ourselves. Change is not always a bad thing.

  • Marshia

    I am actually in the opposite position right now. I have more work than the time in the day to do it all. The only thing about me I changed was my habit of procrastination. I simply don’t have the time to do that anymore.

  • kathl336

    Change isn’t always a bad thing. I agree with that. Challenge is a great thing. We should always challenge ourselves to be a better person. I’m always working on this.

  • Noel23

    I changed my bad habit of procrastination about a year ago and the results have been amazing. I got out of the rut I was in and I find new ways to challenge myself every day and life couldn’t be any better!

  • Kenzie

    This all goes back to self esteem I think. Women have the hardest time liking themselves. I believe if Sam had seen herself as a complete person, she wouldn’t have had to reassure herself with dead end relationships. It’s like she was sabotaging herself. No birth control on top of all that. There has to be a magic pill somewhere labeled confidence and self esteem for women. I would like a bottle of those too.

  • Calvin

    I have an officemate who’s like Sam. Time to upgrade life.

  • beckahboo

    I’m sure we’ve all heard the old adage “What is the definition of insanity? Doing the same thing over and over again but expecting different results”. Why is it so hard for people to realize that if what they are doing isn’t working, they need to change what they are doing? I have friends who make the same exact mistakes over and over again, and act like it is a shock to them when they get the same results they got the last dozen times they tried. It’s exhausting!

  • Georgine77

    Sign me up for a bottle too. I say it is so important to teach our young girls the value of self esteem. Empower our youth so that they know their value.